Is this considered elder abuse?

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My dad has two grandsons that live with him. He gives them the credit card from time to time to go get gas or buy a few groceries. They spend hundreds of dollars more than than he gives them permission for. Most of the charges are to the same convenience store, multiple times in one day, for amounts in the $50 -90 range. This occurs almost every day or at least every other day. Most of the other charges are to auto parts stores. When asked about these charges Dad says he doesn't know what they are for. When we find out that it was the grandsons making the charges he covers for them. He has also started lying about the cash he gives them. Daddy does not have a problem with his memory nor has he been known to lie. The grandsons are in thier late 20"s and early 30's and do not work. They live off of Dad. Since Daddy doesn't see well the grandson's mother writes out his bills. She is aware of her sons taking advantage of Dad's generosity but does nothing to prevent it.

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ABSOLUTELY, if monies, items or goods are being taken from your father AT ANY TIME it is WRONG! It needles to be reported! I do not know why children of wealthy kids believe they are entitled to every cent theist that their parents earned! If they received anything, they should be thankful they are receiving any gift!
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I would say yes some sort of abuse anyway ..but if your dad isn't going to do anything about it then you probably are going to find out there isn't to much going to happen or really to do about it..other than involving your local aps in your state which will eventually come down to them wanting your dad to report them..hope you figure a easier way to get them to stop...peace
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I think it is abuse. It doesn't matter if he has dementia or not...he is elderly and he is being taken advantage of, financially. Just because he seems to 'allow' it does not mean it is okay, or even something he wants to do. If he didn't allow that kind of thing before now, then why now? If he did, then that's different. But if it is new, he is being taken advantage of, at best, and at worst, being abused and somehow manipulated to 'allow' it, if that makes sense.

"Financial elder abuse occurs when someone (a loved one, a close friend or even a stranger) preys on a senior citizen and cheats the senior out of money or property. It is a heinous crime and one that goes vastly underreported. The senior may be embarrassed at having been swindeled, may be afraid of retaliation if the abuser is a family member or caregiver, may be conflicted about reporting a family member to the authorities or may be unable to comprehend that he was, indeed, the victim of a crime."
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He does not have dementia. He does seem to be making poor decisions with his money. The fact that these grown men are taking advantage of our dad and thier mother is allowing it is putting a rift in our family. Dad recently had to go to a nursing home for rehab from surgery and doesn't have the money to throw away on them.
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Well, I don't know about elder abuse but it's certainly abuse of privilege!!! Is your dad mentally competent or does he have dementia? That might make a difference. If they're KNOWINGLY taking advantage of a mentally deficit individual then it could be considered elder abuse.
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