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Without knowing much more, my gut reaction is to say that this is a really bad idea. Is this kiddo getting paid to do this work? If so, they may be thinking that it is a matter of "elder-sitting" and not all the grueling sometimes "icky" stuff that comes with fulltime caregiving. Even if they are very mature for their age, this is not the appropriate care for grandad.
Perhaps looking into another placement for grandad would be a better plan. Then all the grandchildren could visit. At 94 he needs so much more care than can be organized at home. If he has severe medical problems, it may be near impossible.
good luck...
Is it practical and realistic - can someone be there all the time for him if he needs that, and is there MORE THAN ONE WILLING AND ABLE CARGIVER? Don't set up for failure if round the clock care is needed and there is only one person who can provide it. If he can be home alone for at least short periods and is not all that demanding, maybe one person can manage it. Just don't try to do something that can't be done, just out of guilt or a desire to please Dad.
Is this going to be something that dad and caregiver(s) are going to mostly enjoy or find a positive experience? Most people would rather be in their own homes and most caregivers of people who are reasonably pleasant and at least occasionally grateful find they can make a lot of good memories together. On the other hand, this forum is full of posts from caregivers who are dying inside from burnout, being hated on and abused daily, and given no support.
Only you know all those details - and even if it looks good, you could find out it will not work out in the long term, so having a fall back plan is probably very important too.
God bless you for thinking before making the jump.