My 81 year old grandpa is getting more and more difficult that I almost can't take it anymore. He is getting to be disrespectful rude mean and just refusing help food and to walk sometimes. At first I thought it's just his dementia - its ok you can get through this WITH him but it has only gotten worse. He will do something perfectly fine when I am out of the room and sometimes if he feels like it even then and then when I walk in the room hes like ok im ready walk for me... he will literally stop walking in the middle of walking sometimes, he gets rude with us now me his grand daughter my dad and his wife i have never known my grand father to be this way and i am finding that i can not control my temper sometimes so i just walk away he doesnt argue hes just mean and refuses. I don't know what to do anymore.
Right now I cant lift him full and hes gonna end up hurting me and himself cause i am his primary care provider. im so stressed lately cause its all been the past two or three weeks this has been going on and its staring to progress now he is mean most the time and refuses to eat anything says hes been eating great n he hasn,t eating good in 5 days idk what to do i cant make him do things he still has his mind enough that he is coherent but he wants to do it on his own and this is his house and his stuff and ill be putting him in bed n he will be like oh i tell every one to stay out of my room but u can be in here in the middle of changing his diaper. i just dont know how to deal with him right now i am a very very patient person but its to the point where i feel like if u dont want my help then ok and leave but i cant and i wont i care and love my grand father with all my heart but its very frustrating being disrespected and an having some be rude to you even tho its a parent. i know that its part of his dementia but i can take care of him if he wont let me do it and idk im at a loss idk what to do if hes fighting me how am i suposed to help him walk of get in bed or help him to his chair or feeding him or dressing him...
I dont think I can take to many more of his him walking fine in the hall way and just letting his whole body weight drop on me because he just says hes done walking, he is getting heavier nd heavier since his surgery and its getting harder and harder on me and our family who helps care for him. what do i do im stressed and almost at the ends of my wits.
I have so much patients and i never thought i could be so mad at my grandfather for being that way towards me i had to literally just leave and have everyone else take care of him for the day today because the way he is acting i would have exploded today.. i had to ask for some advice before i go crazy in the head here and become so stressed out and tired that i cant deal with him.. i cant figure out what to do anymore all my lil tricks to get him to eat to get him to do things don't work no more what else can i do i need help im tired all the time and im stressed n my back hurts and i have a hurt arm and he hurts me to lift his whole body weight when he just decides to drop on me ugh i probably repeated myself im sorry if i did but i need some thing to go off of or i am gonna have to stop taking care of him cause i cant take the stress on me phsically one of these days there is gonna be no one around to help me when he decides he is just gonna sit down in thee middle of the air n me trying to support him and im not gonna be able to hold him up n we are gonna both end up hurt and that does no good for any body im then useless to him also so if anyone has any advice then please let me know id greatly appriciate it.