After speaking with Area Agency on Aging, a Medicare specialist, and a Medi-Cal worker I am still confused on this issue or maybe I just keep asking the same question hoping for a different answer. I'm not sure yet. Hopefully someone can clear this up for me once and for all.
Here's some background on my grandparents. They live in their own home but both need assistance. My brother has been my grandfather's caregiver for the last 8 years. My grandpa is 88 and has a lot of physical issues but mentally he is still sharp. He is partially blind, can no longer walk or get himself out of bed. He needs assistance with everything. My grandma has dementia and is a diabetic but can still get around on her own for the most part. My aunt takes care of her and stays with them at night.
After 8 years my brother is burned out. I contacted Area Agency on Aging to see if my grandpa would qualify for IHSS to help relieve the burden. I was told that it was a waste of time for them to apply because their share of cost is too high. Their share of cost (SOC) is $1067 so it is high but they also have a lot of monthly medical expenses. What I was told was they would have to spend $1067/month on a caregiver before IHSS would start helping. The person I spoke with said that my grandpa would never reach that threshold. According to her we could hire someone to care for my grandpa and it would cost at or near their SOC. My grandparents are already struggling with their monthly expenses I can't imagine how they would cover their existing medical costs and $1067 for a caregiver too.
When I spoke to the Medi-Cal worker I was told if they have a share of cost at all then IHSS would never approve them because IHSS doesn't take people with a SOC, no matter the amount. I was also told the only things that count toward their SOC are recurring monthly expenses. They do not count other medical bills unless it's a recurring expense. For example, I asked specifically about things like hospital bills since my grandparents are currently making payments to a local hospital for a recent stay that cost them about $600 and I was told that wouldn't count toward their SOC for that month because it was a one time bill.
So here's where my confusion is. I thought any medical expense could count towards their monthly share of cost but what I'm being told is only recurring medical expenses count. My Aunt says what they spend for medical expenses varies every month. This month it'll be much more since my grandpa would like to get a prosthetic eye. She says it'll be about $3,000 just for that expense and they plan to use a credit card to cover it. It's my Aunt's understanding that the SOC would only come into play if one of my grandparents end up in a nursing home. Can someone clear the whole share of cost thing up for me?
I'm also being told that you can't qualify for assistance through IHSS if you have a share of cost but the Area Agency on Aging website states you can get IHSS with a share of cost if you meet all the guidelines for SSI except income. So which is it? If I insisted on pursuing IHSS and my grandpa was approved do they now have two separate share of cost of $1067 to Medi-Cal and IHSS? Because $2134 is almost all the income both of them bring in and they still have living expenses.
The Medicare Specialist said she couldn't help me unless we could reduce their share of cost. Since they are on a Medicare Advantage Plan they can't buy supplemental insurance and they are past the point that anyone would underwrite them anyway even if they tried to get additional insurance since my grandpa has end stage renal failure so no way to reduce share of cost. She advised me to take my grandfather off of dialysis so he could go on Hospice. She felt with his health issues it was probably time to let him go. At this point I kind of broke down. Okay I was a total sobbing mess. Thank goodness it was a phone conversation and not a public place.
I've come to the conclusion that IHSS is probably a dead end. We are currently exploring nursing homes but the last time he was in one he went downhill fast that's why my brother stepped in. Plus I've been informed that it could take awhile to get him into a place since there is a shortage of Medi-Cal beds available in their area.
I was hoping to keep my grandparents together and in their own home. I thought IHSS was the answer. That's probably why I'm holding onto this idea so hard. I wish I could jump in and take over for my brother myself but I'm taking care of my mom who has some serious health issues of her own. I'm probably making this way more complicated than it needs to be. I'm just grasping at straws. I need some guidance and clarification.