I need some important advice on what to do. My grandmother moved in with me & I have cared for her the last four years. She passed away 2 weeks ago at the age of 86. Up until her passing she had always been in her right mind, never any issues there. However, some of her children that never came around called APS on me 2 different times after my grandma stopped paying their bills for them. While she was still here, they were reporting to APS saying I was stealing her money. APS investigated and sent me a letter saying they found me unsubstantial. They talked with my grandmother alone and she told them herself I wasn’t taking any money from her. She knew everything I was doing. I didn’t keep anything from her. She told them I never told her no to anything she ever asked of me, anything she wanted I would provide for her. I took her on vacation to the ocean for the first time and a few other vacations. The investigation was closed. She then made me her POA. I was also the beneficiary on her checking account since I was the one that paid her bills and did all the shopping she needed. Her children have houses and property and three life insurance policies that she left them. Now she has passed away and the same children are slandering my name all over social media, still making accusations that I was stealing her money and that they will take me to court. I don’t know what I need to do or if I can do anything. Can someone please give me advice? I’m so tired of the false accusations. APS has already closed the case, but the family won’t leave me alone.
You do not need to mention names. Just say I took care of my GM, Nora Jones for 4yrs. Her children called APS on me alleging I stole from her. My GM was of sound mind till the day she passed. APS interviewed her and found their allegations were unsubstantiated. She passed on______. Her children continue to harrass me even though they received all her insurance money and me, just her small banking acct. Do not mention they did nothing for her, thats heresay. Nothing negative on your part. Make all your settings private, only friends can see your page. Not even friends of friends. Delete them as friends and block them. Block them on ur phone. If ur threatened, report it to the police. Get cameras around ur home. Restraining order if needed.
IGNORE comments on "Social" Media.
Do not respond to ANYTHING
they will soon get tired of slandering you if they are not getting the response they want.
There is a poster on this forum who says, “Never let a shark see you bleed!” I love that advice!
Your grandmother woke up and stopped giving them money and they became vindictive and jealous of you.
Keep a record of what they are posting. See if you can turn the tables on them about the slandering. I really don’t know if you can or not.
I don’t use FB but I am sure that this kind of thing goes on frequently. It’s crazy! Social media can be used to help in some cases and unfortunately it can also be used to harm others.
Online bullies are basically cowards. They wouldn’t dare say certain things to people’s faces. I don’t think you should take their threats seriously, as far as being able to follow through with any actions.
I doubt that your relatives will be able to provide any proof that you were stealing from your grandmother. You have already been cleared of any wrongdoing.
Wishing you all the best.
You Grandmother didn't make you POA for after her death. You were a POA while she lived, which means you acted in the manner she wanted you to.
You were with her for four years, helping her. I wonder what the kids think that would have cost?
Alas, what does it matter. As to accusations, let them accummulate. I know someone who won 100,000 dollars in a suit against someone who slandered him on Facebook. Let them know that. He sued a dog rescue woman in Austin TX who slandered him, and he WON. Actually it was settled by her insurance.
So you are free. If you were POD on that account then it is YOURS. You protected it and did as she asked why she lived, she made you POD and it is YOURS by any LEGAL (only one that matters) and moral right as well.
You know who these awful people are. STAY AWAY FROM THEM and get on with your life, and know your grandma treasured you.
PS copy and save anything these people say that can be substantiated, and ask people if they would be willing to sign an affidavit as to what they are saying about you. SCARE THEM good.
If your grandmother left a Will then whatever her estate is made up of will be divided according to it.
If I were you, I'd talk to the police and petition the court for a restraining order.