He really needs to be in a nursing facility. My grandmother is 86, grandfather is 94. He had a stroke in April and she has done everything opposite of what doctors and other medical professionals have told her since day one. The acute care hospital he was in was making great progress with him, but when the time came that medicaid was not going to pay for a longer acute care stay, she refused to go see any rehab facilities, so he ended up in the ONE she looked, then she wasn't happy with the care there. She also tells him everyday that she's going to take him home. Because of her last minute decisions, or lack thereof, he's been to sub-rate facilities and hasn't gotten the care he needed. Now, the time has come that the insurance will no longer cover rehab care. The only way to get him into a nursing home would be for her to apply for medicaid, which she refuses to do, and she won't agree to sign her property over. We've explained that medicaid won't take her house (I know they will put a lien on her house and that it will have to be sold to pay that off when he passes), but she seems to pretend that we have not. I don't know if she's just selfish (she's been a selfish person her whole life, but as she ages, it's getting worse). My grandfather is not a veteran (he was born with a hole in his heart). I cannot move to where they are, I'm just a school teacher, so I can't afford to travel 5 hours every weekend. My brother is an 8 hour drive away and has a home and family with small children to care for, and my parents are elderly themselves (70 and 71), my uncle is 65 and had a heart attack recently, his wife still works full time to support them, as his social security isn't enough. Even if I did live there, I'm 50 and NOT a medical professional. She just won't listen to us, not even to my brother who IS a medical professional. I don't know if we need to take power of attorney or what. Besides, that will take a lot of time and money that I don't have, and meanwhile he's going to be at home being cared for by my 86 yr. old grandma and my 70 year old mother! They can't move him. I'm 50 and a pretty strong person, and I can't move him. I'm at a total loss in this situation.