Hello and good evening. My mother and I have been the primary caregivers of my grandmother since February 2020. It was at that time that we found out about her extensive health problems that includes dementia and high blood pressure. While we were trying our best to get her the healthcare she needs, sadly, she had a stroke just this past summer 2021. It was at that time that her hospital recovery started, and then eventually sub-acute rehab.
After her hospital discharge in August, that's when things went downhill. She was recovering amazingly at the first facility, but unfortunately had to be transferred because of her anger and a medication mistake that could not be overlooked. Second place, she was fine initially, doing her PT, speech and OT, so we figured she could go to a memory care.
Fast forward to now, my grandmother has deteriorated and has not been the priority. Many staff changes have occurred and we are not alerted about this until well after it happens. Every time we visit her, she looks fine, but she isn't walking or talking and it is incredibly difficult to fine any staff members to tell us ANYTHING. We ask about her condition during her care meetings and they say she's getting better, but we know otherwise.
Just yesterday, we get a call from a hospice care stating that they wanted to discuss a REFERRAL from the facility for my grandmother, something that was never mentioned whatsoever. Of course both my mom and I are distraught and beyond disgusted that this place did not let us know anything. Even the hospice worker was audibly upset that we weren't alerted.
I have a couple questions that I'm hoping someone can help me answer with your own experience:
1. For those of you with loved ones that have had a stroke: is it possible to deteriorate rapidly (go from walking, talking, etc. to virtually bedridden) and recover again?
2. Would there be any reasons other than neglience that a rehab center wouldn't discuss a hospice referral?
3. Should we be contacting a lawyer/legal aid to take legal action?
I am horribly distraught yet I'm trying to help my grandmother as much as I possibly can. Please if anyone can help, I would appreciate it so much.