My grandmother moved in with us almost a year ago. She had a very traumatic time after her hip surgery and during this time my Uncle (her son) passed away. He lived with her and we decided to move her in with us. I am an RN and she is now pretty much independent. I left nursing to be home with my toddler and her. We recently moved from a 1100 sq ft home with no basement to a 2300 sq ft home with a basement to help with space for us.
My grandmother did raise me, so it’s like having my mother here. Since living with us she has been beyond anxious, rude, mean, intrusive and so much more. Our relationship is nonexistent and I don’t know what to do. She parents my daughter and interjects when she shouldn’t. When I confront her, she cries and puts it on me.
I'm trying my best and she’s really the only family I have. I don’t know what to do. We emptied her house out because we planned on her staying with us but I feel trapped and like it’s ruining my marriage and my life.
My husband and I NEED to get out of town for a little and she tells me that she won’t stay alone. They’re starting to have arguments because of how she treats me and we were talking about having another child but he doesn’t want to bring a baby into this situation.
I’ve talked to her about counseling or medication and she gets upset with me. I feel like if she moves out I’m abandoning her and I’ve already sold or gotten rid of the stuff from her house.
How do I fix this, move past this or be okay with her leaving?