For nearly 2 years I was the day time caregiver for my Grandparents. Grandpa passed away just a month ago.
Since then my Grandmother has kicked me out of the family 3 times. Twice I bit my tongue and did my best to get back into her good graces.
The last time I finally threw in the towel because I was tired of the abuse. She blames me for everything wrong in her life. If she loses something, it's my fault.
She had tried to boot me out many times before, but when Grandpa was alive he would tell her to knock it off. Now there is no one to reign her in.
Now my Mother is saying she can't handle it all falling on her shoulders and crying all the time. I try to explain that I lost both Grandparents essentially, in one month. One to death and one because of their own choice.
I don't want to take the abuse anymore from anyone. But it's killing me to hear my Mom cry. I'm trying to find full time employment now and finish college. They expect me to give it all up to be their servant and caregiver.
Grandma has mobility issues, forgets things, is confused easily depending on the day and so on. Mom won't admit that Grandma needs more help then we can give her. Even with the two of us in her good graces.
I'm emotionally exhausted from the abuse and guilt. I just don't know what to do.
Can anyone help me out? Has any dealt with this themselves?