My grandma is showing signs of dementia, and her doctor won't listen. She changes her colostomy bag, she used to use gloves and washed her hands, but she refuses anymore. We have been telling her to make sure to do that. She gets really defensive and angry and says that germs won't spread because "she was a rn and knows what to do". She will start insulting us. We forced her to use gloves again, but she has leaks alot and gets covered in shit. Pardon my language. She won't bathe, wash her hands, anything. Then she starts touching all the food and its disgusting. My husband talked to her doctor about it but the doctor doesn't care! What can I do about this? A few months back she broke some ribs and had an O.T. come out, she lied to O.T, says she takes showers and sponge baths when she doesn't at all. All she does is lie around in bed all day and night. Why won't anyone listen to me and my husband? I don't know what to do and I have to throw out all the food she touches and we pay for it! Help!