My dad and I are the only people who care for her. She is 93. As of last week, she has started accusing my dad and I of stealing gardening tools (of all things) and of taking her old lawn mower and replacing it with a newer one without telling her why. For this reason, she is not even allowing us entry into the garage. Last week she insisted we return the house keys and call before we come. We have been doing her yard, banking, shopping, picking up prescriptions, and taking her to the doctor (IF it is one she wants to see) for almost 10 years now. She has never found fault with anything we do. Not a day has gone by that one of us has not spoken with her to be sure she is safe and doesn't need anything. She frequently doesn't hear the phone for the whole day, so 3 to 4 times a month, we have to go over there. Thankfully we end up laughing about it and have a nice, short visit.
She made me promise to tell her if she was starting to show these signs, but with her being so adamant and aggressive about the garden tools, I don't think she will be receptive to me telling her that I am worried about her mind. I'm worried about her safety especially since she refuses to own a cell phone or an emergency alert device. She's very hard of hearing and she doesn't see well. She does take decent care of her daily living tasks and keeps herself and the house mostly tidy. She will not let one of us stay with her, even when she has had overnight hospital procedures and definitely not a "stranger" (caregiver). I am scared we might have to get outside help, but who? And how do we go about it without her thinking we are out to get her or her money. We are very comfortable financially, and just want her to be comfortable in her home for as long as it is possible. I would do anything to help her stay there until her time comes, but as of last week she's convinced of this crazy theft narrative. I am not taking it personally or arguing with her, because I have a medical background and have been studying about this behavior...but I know it is time to take care of her medically and for her safety. ANY suggestions are more than welcome 🙏