The more I've been thinking, I'm starting to convince myself that my brother intentionally overdosed my grandma so let me lay out my theory
In mid October, my sister in law told my grandma that she thinks my job in NY will be ending soon and I'll be back to take her home. My mom and brother heard this. Around Halloween, she called me for 3 days straight to guilt me into paying off the home equity loan under the pretense that it's for my own benefit since when I'd get the house, it'd be due anyway so I could save interest. Each time, I said no and by the third day she seemed more panicky asking me like I had to say yes (bc the junkies she gave the home to didn't want to pay it) My theory is that they illegally used their invalid POA (she wasn't incompetent and the APS worker previously told them those papers mean nothing until she is) to get her in hospice bc they feared I was coming soon and once she went home their game would unravel. No one was informed that she was on hospice despite having 3 other grandsons (and their families) living within 5 miles. There was also no remarkable health decline nor did she ever express that she was ready to go. So why go on hospice right before the holidays and why is it a secret? The first week of November, my mom leaves for Florida and planned to stay until after New Years. Who leaves their mother in their home on hospice to go on a 2 month vacation? My grandma died overnight 11/28-29 but she needed restroom assistance and one of the main complaints they had was that she would wake them up a lot to pee but now she doesn't for 11 hours? I suspect that my brother may have overdosed her bc my physician uncle was coming to visit from St. Louis and he would have noticed her Meds were gone and find out about hospice. Also, for the last month she would always seem to be talking in code or like my brother was listening.
I feel like I should report this to the police bc they never came to the home after death, just hospice. I thought maybe they could get toxicology before she's buried. But I don't even know if it sounds too far fetched and they will ignore it. There's just too many strange things to dismiss and when linked, imo form a story that deserves to be looked into. On the "bright" side, the police know my brother is a druggie and violent so it's not like I'm accusing an upstanding citizen but I would hate to be wrong and inflict pain on him. However, my gut is pinging and if I'm going to present my suspicions, it's tomorrow or never. What would you do if you're only using the evidence/presumptions I stated. And please disregard telling me that she was 96 and in poor health. I totally agree and I know this day was nearing one way or another but I also think it's a good way to get away with something like this bc it's not unexpected.
I need advice