My grandma is turning 98 at the end of the month and is starting to repeat things which really are not important. She still drives and is completely functional. So my aunt and mom are upset because they say I encourage her bad behavior and I say you only live once, let her enjoy it. So there was a wedding we went to on Saturday and she convinced me to go out and do the staying alive, saturday night fever dance, which my kind of uptight family said I am encouraging bad behavior from her. About an hour after the dance, she wanted to do it again. They believe she didn't remember and I feel she was just trying to have fun. Then, my son and I took her kayaking today and she lied about it so she didn't get scolded...it is kind of funny to watch. She asks questions about your life and work and when she repeats herself, usually she catches herself and rephrases, noticable if you know her but not so much if you don't. I do not believe she is not competent, just forgetful at times. My mom and aunt think she needs to move in an AL because she repeats herself but I don't see the need. How do you know when the repetition is a concern?