This sounds a bit ridiculous, but I promise I'm not making any of it up. My grandma has early Alzheimer's, but her condition is rapidly diminishing. She currently lives with my grandpa, but the living conditions are atrocious. She is forced to sit in a recliner all day in the living room, but she has become so weak that she never leaves her chair. Moreover, my grandpa is not taking care of her at all. His form of care involves letting her sit in a recliner all day with nothing to do except watch tv. He feeds her by picking up McDonald's or KFC once a day. My mom is able to make it over every other day or so, but she finds my grandma sitting in her own waste, so she has to be cleaned up. At night, it's impossible for my grandma to make it up the stairs, so she has a makeshift bed my grandpa has on the nearby couch, so she literally is never able to leave the living room.
What's even worse is that my grandpa hired a caretaker, but she has become his girlfriend and no longer takes care of my grandma. In fact, they go out dancing while my grandma is confined to her living room prison. She just looks miserable being forced to live in these conditions while my Grandpa does not take care of her. It's evident that she needs to be in a nursing home, which my mom has been trying to do. However, my mom says that my grandpa is refusing to omit her because of money, even though they have enough.
Is there something we can do through the law, based on how horrible the conditions are for my grandma? No one should ever have to sit in there own waste. My mom and I don't know what to do because my grandpa refuses to have her placed. My mom said she was able to get a social worker, but apparently my grandpa forced my grandma to say everything was okay, and supposedly the social worker said we can't submit my grandma to a nursing home unless my grandpa complies. At this point we're not sure what other options we have.