My grandfather had a stroke a few years ago. Since then he has become verbally abusive to my grandmother. They recently moved to a new house that was more "elderly friendly" (i.e. no steps, all one level) after my grandmother collapsed about a year ago. You can see that she is depressed, stressed and just doesn't even LOOK good! The verbal abusive he gives her every day is taking it's toll. He swears at her frequently (and she is a God believing, church going woman so this REALLY bothers her), he yells at her and she won't even go into public with him anymore because he belittles her and embarrasses her infront of other people. Before they moved, they looked into assisted living, but he said he WOULD NOT move to a home or an assisted living. Ideally, my grandmother should just leave him and go on her own, but we don't think they can afford two living arrangements, plus my grandfather is not fit to live on his own. He has also become loud, obnoxious and flat out mean to everyone else as well, even their children and grandchildren. My grandmother is afraid to leave because she says she would "have to live with that on her shoulders." What do we do?