8 people live with him that DO NOT pay any bills. Granddaughter moved in with grandparents several years back. My Mother passed away in 2009. Granddaughter is suppose to be taking care of my father. she will not let me know when he is ill, says I should call and ask if he is ill. I called every week for 3 years and was told both parents were fine. We do not live in the same town.Only to find out everyone knoew my Mother was ill in the hospital several time sna dided of cancer. I was told about it 3 months before her death. Granddaughter has managed the finances for grandfather since 2009. He was diagnosed with dementia in 2006. He is in his 80's. She has managed to move her mother (ex daughter in law), siter and brother in the house with their families. We have no idea who is paying any of the bills as they refuse to let us see any of the papers or documents to support that they are paying anything. My father came to stay with us for a week and told us she was draining him dry and even told his VA counselor this. She recently had a swimming pool installed andis again remodeling the house to support the larger family. she says she is paying for this but the salary she makes and the new additions dont add up. Plus the fact that they all drive new cars. He has not talked to either son in two years. We have tried everything we know of to do. Any suggestions? What does this sound like to you. I'm at my wits end. I just want him moved to a facilities that can help with his demetia and get the proper care. We took his car away and they allowed him to buy another one. They have allowed him to drive a car and gotten lost twice now. I don't want any of the money just him to be safe and cared for. If he was diagnosed in 2006 with dementia is anything he has signed since then valid.