I take care of my gran during the day Mon-Fri unless I'm sick. I have a kid to take care of so it's all I can do. She's getting easily excitable and agitated now, usually triggered over food choices or the shots she takes and when she takes them. I know a bit of it is because her children are also elderly and have their own issues and are winding down themselves. She's also got a small bit of vascular dementia and worsening eyesight. My mom is dealing with an ailing husband and being exhausted all the time from her own physical ailments. My uncle is easily angered (not abusive) and it takes literally nothing to get him to hollering about how hard it is (he takes care of business and grounds keeping and repairs) but he's got really bad issues with his health as well. The only one left is the youngest daughter who lives in TX. I'm set to start school soon, and I'm worried. While she can stay by herself some, she really does need full time care, but money is tight and she doesn't qualify for any type of long term care aid. She's also stubborn as a bull. She may live to be a hundred, but her two oldest kids might not live for another 10 years. The infighting doesn't help, and she's scared of strangers coming in her home, and hates home health aids and caregivers. Is there anything else to do? I would move in but she can not stand children at this age. Her nerves are shot. I think it's causing her dementia to expand more, with all the craziness of just trying to figure out who is going to be with her during the day when things change. I understand this, but I have to think about my family, too. She hasn't even set up POA yet, and for the most part can manage her funds, knows what's coming in and going out. Her checkbook is still in her purse and she checks everything before signing the checks, and she knows what her bills are. That's a good thing, but if something major happens, like a stroke, what then? I'm so worried that she's going to drive herself crazy with all of this, and she's mad at the kids for the way they are acting (albeit, understandable) and she takes this as a sign to keep doing for herself on that part until she dies. I'm not buying it. I want her to have peace and love in her final years, but my words fall on everyone's ears like they are made of nothing.