Hello! A Little background. I am The primary caretaker for my grandparents who are 94 and 89. My grandfather has mid-stage dementia. He takes various medications for it including an antipsychotic that is supposed to put him to sleep and stop delusions.
This evening, I decided to stay the night at grandma and grandpas house because we have an early morning appointment. Over the last couple days my grandma has been complaining that my grandfather has been chatting with her all night and not letting her sleep. She wouldn't get into the details, she just said he was up talking.
well, tonight I left my room to go to the bathroom around 1 AM and heard them arguing. He was accusing her of cheating and she was denying denying it, which is not a new theme for their arguments or his delusions. His delusions frequently follow that line of thinking.
My question is, do I intervene? If I were to say something, to go into the room at 1:45 in the morning and try and stop that, would that be a smart idea? I mostly worried about going in there and grandpa seeing it as something sneaky going on and getting into paranoia/delusion spiral. I'm worried it may make things worse.
If I don't to do anything, things will probably be OK. My grandma can hold her own and grandpa will eventually fall asleep. I just hate the idea of sitting here in my room while my grandmother is being tormented in the next room.
Of course there is going to be a call to the doc in the morning, but I'm just curious as to any suggestions how to defuse the situation if anyone thinks it's appropriate to do. I will obviously keep an ear out and stay up for a bit to make sure things don't escalate into a fight, although I don't think GrandpA is at the point Where he is ready to get physical about this sort of thing.
Thanks for any advice you may have. What a terrible disease...