Maybe some of you seen my last post
my father is still in the hospital with digestive problems
We went to return his car to his house because he left it at the doctor's office when they took him away in an ambulance.
I thought I should look inside the house and it was absolutely disgusting
I couldn't even step in it was horrendous
I called a cleaning service that said they were able to deal with the situation and hired them
told my father about it an went ballistic said he didn't want strangers in his house, I said I will be there when they are there but he was still amazingly angry and said I don't want anyone there until I get home. and I know he won't do anything
I called the hospital and told them to make my sister the main contact
he called a few times today pretending nothing happened and I told him to not to call me anymore and hung up on him
enough is enough ffs
Hospital geriatriatrician evaluated him and said he was cognizant.
Because as you can see, that is an awful lot of "contact" for someone who's wanting or at least says that they're wanting to go no contact.
If you truly want to go no contact, you MUST remove yourself completely from anything that has to do with your father. Period, end of sentence.
I would have probably done the same thing, called in someone to clean, but I would have told Dad. Let him find out if and when he returns home.
You cannot win here. First he says stay away and then he calls you. He can't have it both ways. Block his calls. Let your sister handle it all. Do not backslide. You must stick to your boundaries and not give in. If you give in, its like crying wolf. You Dad needs to be placed.
I suspect they are the only ones who can, if they choose, do anything.
I know you have done that before.
Just keep on doing it.