Should we ask her what she wants to do? they say that they think she should be placed in nh so i can go on with my life but i think i can still care for her at home. She is 97 and in the hospital recovering from a gi bleed which has left her very weak. She also got mrsa in the hospital and is on iv antibiotics for another 3 weeks. She is getting pt at the hospital but that is slow go and she may never be independently mobile again. She only weighs 97 pounds though so I don't have a problem lifting her or taking care of her needs. occasionally her mind does revert back in the past but for the most part she is very sharp. I can't bear to put her there if she is going to be unhappy but my siblings say i have to get over the guilt. she has been living with me and my family for almost a year. It is very confining as we have 4 grandchildren involved in lots of things and i missed going to watch them and getting to spend time doing things with my husband but i think its worth it. a decision will have to be made as soon as the iv antibiotics are finished and i don't know what to do. HELP!!!!!!!!