Mom has shown signs of Dementia for at least 2 yrs. Dad & I have managed to get blood work, a cat scan, & a trip to the E R. done. She lied her way through all evaluations & nothing abnormal showed on medical tests. She has awful behaviour with dad, jealousy, thinking he poisoning her, yelling at him everyday. They're both 76. Is it time to get a court order to get get her on meds? We both want her to stay at home, just be more manageable. She stays with me a few days here & there, but now doesn't like my husband. Help please.
Maybe, you could tell your mom that he has retired and take her to another doctor next time? That probably would not work or be a good idea, but changing doctors would.
I hope the magistrate idea would work. If she ever threatens your dad or you think that she is a danger to him or to herself do call 911 and have them pick her up. I"m sure it is heartbreaking for both yourself and your dad to her your mom talk like she is doing. I hope this can get on a better path soon.
I am sorry that she has not given and won't give you POA because you don't believe her. That is an example of a deluded mind right there which is likely not competent to even give you or her husband a POA. i does not sounds like she will be manageable to live with ya'll long term. I think it might be possible to get some input from adult protective services. I would at least reach out to them for everyone's sake.
Do you or your dad have medical POA for your mom? Have either spoken to her doctor or neurologist in private about her behavior? I always did that concerning my mother because I knew she would put on a good show. Most parents with dementia do.