My father stays with myself, my husband and our 10 year old daughter 4 months out of the year. I have several frustrations but my biggest concern, frustration and "conflict" is what he is supposed to eat and drink vs. what he wants. He has a condition with his esophagus whereas he can not eat meat (unless chopped very small) and needs to eat soft foods. I make all kinds of great things vegetables, potatoes, pasta, soups etc. I make sure it is full of flavor and serve a lot of it to my family. I try to understand how it can't be easy to have a "limited" diet, but I don't understand how to help things more than I have. He spends at least 20 hours a day napping and laying down as he says he has no energy, I offer to make anything and he says no. An average day of food and drink for him is a cup of coffee with at least 3 tablespoons of sugar, 2 donuts or a bowl of cereal, a bag or 2 of snack size cookies, 2 popsicles, soup for dinner and 1-2 Klondike bars for dessert and 1 small coke throughout the day. I have the instructions from his doctor but it doesn't matter to him. The other day he complained he got dizzy twice and I said you have been outside in the sun for 2 hours (we live in South Florida) and you are probably a little dehydrated. I was able to get him to drink some Gatorade and he felt better and I made him some eggs. So I explained "if the tank is empty the car can't run" he shrugged it off and we are back to where we started. I am at the end of my rope after 3 months of this I am in the state of tears everyday. He wants to live on sugar, cookies, candy and ice cream. It is effecting every aspect of my daily life and effecting my family. I don't want it to get to the point I can't have him come stay with us for the winter but I can not have my family suffer and I can not have my daughter be exposed to his indifference and selfishness. He had a clean bill of health mentally and physically minus the throat problem when he arrived in December. As I sit and write this the tears are flowing, until now I have felt like crying but my anger kept me from doing it. Any help is appreciated. I have never had to "care" for an older person and I feel (and I have been told) I am a very giving, patient and caring person but this is making me feel like a bad person. He is my Dad, how can I feel so frustrated, sad and angry.