My mom (77 years old) moved in with me almost 2 years ago after living with my sister for 19 years. (I have always live in the neighborhood so my mom often would spend time with me as well). They helped each other out being that my sister was divorced and had a baby. (My father passed when I was 5). My mom quit her job back then to take care of my sisters baby. I was 24 then but I do remember telling my sister that Mom shouldn't quit her job and her telling me about how I shouldn't worry she would take care of her when she is old. Fast forward 19 years later my sister has MS, her son is doing drugs, my mom starts confronting her about the drugs and they were fighting and my sister tells me that mom can no longer live with her. My sister had remarried and had another kid which my mom also cared for full time. My mom gave her $80K to buy this new house about 10 year ago and also gave her $600 a month rent. I was so angry with my sister that I have not talked to her since. I said some very hurtful things (which I regret) and told her she was dead to me. My mom said she confronted her about the money and my sister said that she couldn't give her any but she would pay her supplemental health insurance. I told my mom she could live with us, go to Florida and live with my brother or we could chip in and find a place for her to live--She said she wanted to live with us. She get SSI about $1100 a month and she pays her car and car insurance leaving her with about $700 to spend. We had a spare room--though small and are finalizing the plans to enlarge our house to give her some more room. I took mom mother for her annual exam last year and she has high cholesterol and blood pressure which she has been taking meds for the last ten years. The doctor spoke to both of us about her memory issues and I mentioned that I did notice memory issues with my mother--she was not happy with that. She said she was fine. She didn't need anything. It's a year later and I am taking her to her annual in two weeks--believe me I have told her she needs to go to the doctor more often, but she tells me she will not go more than once a year. I want her to get tested for Alzheimer's but how do I get her to agree to it. I would like to slow the progression of this if I can, but from what I read I really don't know if medicine will help. I have some friends who have parents taking medicine and they said they really didn't see a difference. So do I have a big argument with her and tell her she has to take the test and then the medicine doesn't work and its all for nothing. How do I persuade her to take the test. She has been very depressed since last year. I told her we can see the doctor and get an antidepressant and she said she didn't want one. She sometimes says she wishes she would just die. I am often depressed because of all this. I have two kids and a great husband yet I just want to go home and go up to my room and be alone. I feel so guilty about her living in a tiny room and at the same time so angry that I have to deal with this. She's not even as bad as many of the seniors I read about and already I feel depressed. At any given time I am angry, sad, guilty. I just want to come to terms with that this is what it is (my journey) and accept it and be at peace with it. I am thinking I need to speak with a doctor to help me with my feelings and I do plan to do it--was just hoping I could work through this on my own. My husband is fine with my mother living with us--when I tell him I am sad he says why--there is nothing to be sad about--you have your mother and we will deal with things as they come up. I wish I could be more like him. Apologies for being so long. I just want to know what to do about getting her to take the test and an antidepressant. I want to keep her living with me for as long as I can and I am hoping the medicine will help with that.