Stepdad passed away April 27th, been taking care of mom 24/7 since then, moving her from her state to my home over 1400 miles away. I thought I could make it work in my home with the help of caregivers, but what I have found is that I have completely given up my life....I am too busy keeping mom busy, she shadows if I am around and her dementia is evaluated between moderate to severe. my hubby and kids are second and third, and they don't deserve that. She was in an AL facility and hated being there, and I don't think she would willingly go into any facility, even though I have found a really nice memory care unit around the corner with several high functioning residents that I think she could enjoy.
Please share how you "tricked" your loved one into going?
It started out temporary?
You dragged them kicking and screaming?
I was hoping to do it with the least amount of trauma for Mom.
My current plan is to have someone else she knows fairly well take her straight from the airport at the end of the month after we go out of town to bury my stepdad. She will already be disoriented and might even forget she had been living in my house for a month and a half. I was going to make up a story about needing to go out of town again for business.