When my grandparents were in their 70s and 80s, every time any one of us family members brought up the subject of death planning, they immediately tuned us out and said "I'm still in good health. I don't want to talk about that now." We wanted to get them to start thinking about things like purchasing burial plots, pre-purchasing funeral arrangements at a local mortuary, getting their will estate documents, and power of attorney documents in order.
I'm not sure whether this is a cultural thing or not (my family is of Chinese heritage). But now that both grandparents are in their 90s, getting them to do any of this now is like pulling teeth. We don't want to spend tens of thousands of dollars in purchasing all of that for them; they have their own money and we want to express that they should use their money to buy things that they will need and to help us take care of them down the line. However, none of that registers with them and they are more than content with just eating their meals, sleeping all day and watching TV. They say stuff like "You have to take care of us. We don't want to talk about stuff like that right now."
A two-fold question would be: for future reference, how would we start getting family members to start thinking about this stuff even if they don't want to? And second, now that we are in this situation, what can we do? They can barely leave the house (to buy stuff at cemetery, mortuary) and can also barely sign documents (power of attorney, adding beneficiaries, etc.). Even when we do bring them certain documents to sign, they ask what it is over and over again and when we explain it, they say, "I don't want to sign it right now." It is very frustrating. Thoughts?