I moved in with my parents over two years ago when my Dad said Mom needed more help. My Mom has always been fiercely independent and amazingly determined and creative. At 91 she is experiencing diminishing memory and has numerous physical ailments. Which is understandably very frustrating for her. In four months she has fallen 4 times most recently dislocating and breaking a bone in her elbow. She still wants to keep her 16" high mattress/box spring which requires her to use a foot stool to get into bed; take showers independently:dress standing up and go up and down stairs without assistance. She gets very upset when we try to assist her and become argumentative and combative. This behavior makes Dad's days miserable. She refuses to take these basic precautions even when they come from doctors she loves. She does not want to move from her home which I totally get but if she breaks a hip I won't be able to lift her. We don't think that Mom will change her behavior. Does anyone have any tips on how we can manage our own behavior. We just want to help her stay safe. She sees us as the enemy. Thank you!