Can someone with experience help me with caring for old person. there are many problems and it seems like there is nowhere to get help.
First the man believes he is superman. i think his dementia is getting worse but my sister is so burnt out that she is slacking majorly and im picking it up. but i dont have the power to make him see a doctor or lecture him when he is being super poor to his health. the biggest problem i see is the man believes he is fully capable of living an independent life and although thats obviously not the case.
so how do we get him to understand that hes an old man not a 16 year old kid.
also hes an alcoholic who likes recreational drugs. he belives he wil be a perfect driver becuz he has never gotten a ticket(there are a 101 reasons to why he shouldnt drive now)t. i keep telling my sister to take him to an OT driving instructor so he can get that dumb idea out of his head but she keeps putting it off to spare his feelings. also i belive his dementia is getting worse because he can no longer manage his prescriptions or feeding himself or cleaning up after himself. he has absolutely no sense of time. and his belief that hes not that old or damaged is getting worse(he thinks he can start doing engineering work again and party like a 21 year old i mean get drunk every night ill 5 am and we have been dealing with it, sometimes he gets lost wandering around the bad part of town instead of just taking a taxi home he will think he can save money and walk(its $5 for taxi ride from bar to home and).
What can do we to convince this guy that having a live in caregiver is a necessity if he doesnt want to live in a home. how do we convince him that without someone looking after him he would die within 6 months which is probably alot alot longer than he would live if left alone.
also how do i tell my sister that hes a drug addict and so ALL he wants to do in life is get high and have fun without regards to anything else. even when he says ''ill do my best'' or ''ill really try'' or even he asys ''yes i wil definitely do that'' but these are all just words he uses to get us to stop lecturing him at the moment and when the time comes he does whatever he wants to do but my sister believes he will try and bullsh*t.
i realize a huge part of the problem is woman's logic goes as far as their emotions. so since she is soooo emotionaly attached to this case i feel she fails to make the most logical decisions. like getting him to an OT instructor asap before he takes himself for a test drive. which we have caught him just about to do before.