My mom, almost 80 years old, has been suffering severe dementia for the past 6 months (yesterday she asked when the rigor mortis was going to set in, as she's convinced I'm dead), sits in the liv. room all day, every day talking to/arguing w/ the voices in her head, & refuses to see a Dr. To have tests done/ be treated, as she doesn't think anything is wrong with her. It has been approx. 40 yrs. since her last Dr.'s appt., About 6 months ago, the everyday forgetfulness sharply turned into full-blown dementia as she began holding conversations with herself, insisting the hous & backyard were on fire, & my sister was dead... I called the Dept. for the Aging, & when they sent two women out to do an evaluation, she wasted no time in kicking them out. And since she answered these women correctly when asked the present year & president, the women said that she had rights & there was little they could do. Her condition is worsening daily, & because of her state, I am unable to hold even a part-time job, for fear she will either hurt herself or burn the house down. We are barely getting by on her meager Social Security monthly income, & every instinct I possess tells me she desperately needs medical care & tests done to address this dementia, & I also need to know if this is purely just dementia, or if this is the onset of full blown Alzheimer's Disease. My sister (a nurse, by profession, herself) seems to think that there is little we can do in terms of an intervention, as my mom does possess certain rights, & says she thinks that it's a matter of a waiting game until my mom becomes so physically ill that I am able to call her an ambulance (my sister doesn't see my mom on even a monthly basis, as she lives a few states away from us). I continue to grow more and more concerned, & as she flat out refuses to go to a Dr.'s appointment, or have one come out to our home to complete an assessment, I grow more & more helpless feeling.
I need to know if there are any immediate steps I can take in order for her to receive the care she deserves, rather than having to sit back & wait until her health is compromised to such an extent that I have to call the paramedics for her. My mom has no relatives to speak of, which leaves me in the dark in terms of a genetic predisposition for Dementia, Alzheimer's, or Diabetes.... (My sister says that often people, & in particular seniors, can experience dementia as a complication due to the onset of Diabetes). But again, neither of us knows what to attribute this dementia to, as she refuses to be seen by a doctor. Can anyone help point me in the right direction insofar as resources I can tap or actions I can take instead of feeling trapped into doing nothing at all? I am desperate at this point. I & my sister are also out of luck being able to handle this from a legal standpoint, as my mom has no will, living or otherwise, appointing one of us her Power of Attorney, which would have made it so much simpler to handle things if she had. Can anyone tell me whether I have any type of recourse I may take? I need some answers as soon as is humanly possible! Please,please, please HELP!
Thank you so much, in advance, for your time & trouble! I look forward to hearing from you ASAP!
Very Truly Yours,