She has stopped washing her clothes, she doesn't do dishes, she doesn't vacuum, dust, or even put things away. She makes her bed, but she hasn't changed the linen in ages. She always combs her hair and puts on a little makeup (still well-executed) when she goes out, but will wear a shirt and jeans covered with stains from gardening, spills, and just wearing them for days and days. I've tried suggesting, gentle teasing, leading questions ("Do you know where your other jeans are? Maybe you can put them on and toss these in the wash?") and even threats ("If you don't start doing this more for yourself, I have to bring someone in to do it for you.") I have 3 jobs and can't clean her apartment AND my house. She can't afford anything that isn't covered by medicare/medicaid, and most of all, she becomes RABID when I mention bringing anyone in to help her. It would be a complete meltdown if a home helper came in and tried to clean for her or do her wash. Any ideas?