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My stepfather has POA of my mom who is in a NH but is going downhill himself.

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If your mother will cooperate it may be possible to have the attorney's office make the simple name change on her POA and have it witnessed and notorized at her nursing home. Of course if step father gets in the way this could be a problem.
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Not that long ago it wasn't unusual just to have just one person as Power of Attorney. When I got my hands on my parent's POA's from 2002, that was how it was written.

So one time my Dad was in the ER and my Mom didn't want to go with us [she was in her 90's, couldn't hear, couldn't see but she was Dad's POA] I went with Dad but told him he would have to make all his own decisions because I had no legal authority to do so..... right after that, my parents had me drive them to an attorney to update their POA's to also include my name [only child].
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Thanks so much for both your answers. My mom is still sharp but bedridden. I can't get POA for my stepdad because he has adult children that won't allow it.
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Most POA documents name a secondary POA if the primary POA becomes incapacitated. Does her document have such a clause? I can't imagine a lawyer putting one together without recommending a secondary. Perhaps you are the secondary already and can activate now?

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Only your Mom can give Power of Attorney to someone. How is her memory? If she is still sharp but just not very mobile, you could bring her to an Attorney to have the Power of Attorney changed. She could still have your Step-Dad as primary POA with you as secondary. Thus when Step-Dad feels he can't make decisions any more, then you can step in.

As for your Step-Dad, who is his own Power of Attorney? Was it your Mom? If yes, then it is time for your Step-Dad to update his Power of Attorney while he still can.

And while you are at the attorney's office, if you haven't already, you get yourself a Power of Attorney.
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