We have hospice (just started last week) and Dad's refusing the respite care they offer; refusing to pay an agency like "Home Instead" (says $$ is an issue, but it's not). He complains about being tired and at the end of his rope, but will not let me find someone to come in and help. I know there are volunteers out there. Dad's 90, mom is 91 - I'm 55 and an only child (no children) and am recently divorced. I'm beginning to resent my dad's attitude. I've also witnessed a couple of instances of "mild" elder abuse, which just breaks my heart. We've always been a very close-knit family and this is tearing us apart! Dad doesn't listen to me any more and communication is starting to break down. I'm feeling mroe than a little resentful. I need advice!!