My mother was diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer in May 2014. She has been taking chemo treatments for a little over a year now. The last 5 weeks she haven't had a treatment at her doctors discretion due to her weight loss and weakness.
Her doctor had a good talk with her about calories and weight gain and the consequences if she does not eat and drink her water. My mother promised him she would do better, but instead is eating and drinking less since the talk.
She can barely sign her name these days (but is rational and coherent) . She doesn't have anything in place regarding a will, trust or anything else. There's two of us, my brother and I. We are both in the home with mom and share care giving. My brother has lived with mom since dad died in 2001. I came home to help with her in 2014 (reside in California). I've spoken with our mother regarding a will, what she want us to do on her behalf if God doesn't restore her health.
All of the paperwork (medical, doctor, household bills, etc), prepare and deliver moms water and food and help with her personal hygiene if its needed. My brother help with cleaning the kitchen, and takes care of the (5 acre) yard and repair things when broken, and we both take mom for her chemo treatments. My brother has been a substance abuser over 30 years and mom knows this.
My brother and I are in the dark! What can I do and what kind of will should my brother and I try to convince her to get? We are completely clueless.