When my father died, I begged my sister to move in to help mom. She gets along better with mom and it is just her. I had three young children and a husband. She refused. She called me up a few years later and said that mom offered to pay for her to go back to college if she moved back in. I told her she was an able bodied adult(in her 30's) she had 8years of college with no degree to show for it. She then proceeded to tell me that mom should have given us part of the money that dad left her. Mom went on a vacation of a life time and my sister went as well. Mom paid for it. She offered to do the same for me but I couldn't in good conscious do it.(The trip for 2 was over 10 thousand dollars)
When mom was diagnosed with cancer she said she would help when she needed to. I realize she lived a couple of hours away and hadn't planned on taking her up on it. After a really nasty attitude during chemo treatment, I was so burned out, I asked her to take her once, just to give me a break.
She said she needed to let her job know at least a week in advance. I gave her almost a month notice and she called the day before to cancel.
Now mom has to have major surgery. My sister is between jobs again and now wants to stay for almost 3 weeks. Which means along with my last child being in school and doing all the mom things that it entails, as well as being a care giver for mom, I have to pick up after my sister, remind her that some clothing(Or lack their of) is not appropriate in front of my husband.
How do you not resent the situation? Is it just me?