She hates it there but has to be there. The assisted living facility said she had to move since she kept falling and needed 24 hour attention. Her mind is so good yet that it's hard for her to be in such a place but I can't care for her at home, hers or mine, since I don't have the ability to do that. I am 72 and she is 97. How do I handle all of this without constant guilt. She tells me I hate her which I don't but not exceptionally close with her either. My brother and I never like to visit because when we do , she complains all the time and is so unhappy where she is. I have no choice but to have her there but never wanted to put her in a nursing home. Feel she will live another long time and I don't know how to make it better for her.