He has always been this way. Gotten worse these last months. Dx with Parkinson's in 1990 at the age of 44. Continued to work as co-owner of a mechanics shop until 1993. He doctor hoped for a while and finally stayed with a Dr, in New Orleans. While I was working as a nurse I would get the frantic calls about how he was dying. I would leave work and rush home( an hour away) and he would be fine. "Drama Queen" in male body. I was working as a director of a med/surg unit and was never sure what was real and what was exaggerated.
I felt guilty that he was sick and work overtime to get him all he wanted.
In 2009 and 2010 I had back and neck surgery. Later that year I was dx, with a severe heart condition that also put me out of work. Every since 2010 he has been wheel chair bound. Progression of his Parkinson's disease has gone down hill. He has now had PD for 25 years and demands everything to be done in a split second. He is aspirating Liquids but reuses the thicket in his ensure. I get him from chair to chair and in and out of bed, He has hospice care but never ask them for help. Since Jan, of this year he has had aspiration pneumonia 6 times.
My problem is total frustration with his attitude. No consideration of my health or the time I am taking up with the care of my Handicap son that has Spina Bifida. He is 31 yrs old. To keep from being mean to my husband I have started smoking again which is a big no-no with my heart condition. I am just not coping with him well. Maybe I am being selfish for having no time for myself but my days 24/7 are getting the best of me.
Has anyone got any suggestion for a revamp of my attitude? Any help would be appreciated. I don't like being mean or short tempered with him but it just comes out that way, Thanks for listening.