I am back again about momma. She had two fraudulent checks written on her account - so the last three days I have been at the bank trying to get everything straighted out. Basically we had to close her old account - get back her money from the two fraudulent checks - reverse the 36.00 over fee charges - open up another account - fund it and order new checks. No this is not all of her fault but trying to explain to her that she cannot write any checks until I got this straighted out is like pulling your hair out. Also i have tried to explain to her and brother that when you leave her house - to lock your doors. Her house is wide open on a number of occasions. Bro should know this. Duh! t The only thing she knows how to do is write checks. She never knows her balance. Transposes the figures wrong in her checkbook and is asking the housekeeper to go through her bank statements and balance her checkbook for her. When she uses her credit card she cannot figure how to add up the tip. She can sign her name. I have talked to her about this but she trys to change the subject or here lately she will try to make light of the subject and make a joke about it and laugh. I live four hours away - have poa and I am depending on bro who does help a little - if he is not half stoned then good luck! I asked him to take momma to the bank to sign a new signature card - he did that but I asked him to take her to Walmart to make good on one of her checks because she didn't have any money in her account. Well he didn't do it. The bank person there told them something different than the bank person and me were telling them over here - so they believe their bank person. Not either one of them believes anything that I am telling them. If I told momma the moon is blue - she would not believe me but if it came from anybody else - well - you know what! The moon is blue! This is not the first time something like this has happened. I guess when something else happens - which it does all the time - has been for the last five years - if you want it done and done correctly - I am going to have to get in my car and drive eight hours to do it myself. I don't trust anybody over there and I don't have very much help. I want to get off of this roller coaster. Sis does nothing for momma .bro and sis set over there and bad mouth me like a dog and then what momma does is that she believes them and repeats everything to me. Yea I know - she doesn't realize it but it is still hurtful. She doesn't know what she is talking about and gets the time issue messed up. Like she will tell you something about sombody that in her mine happened recenty but actually a year ago. My husband has noticed all of this in momma too and we were going to talk to her when we go home the next time - like it would do any good. We maintain two property's for her - both out of state. Mine you that my husband works a full time job. I manage her finances her investments and taxes. This is weighing on us too much. Been five years. I would like for her to go into either independent living or assisted living. She is not driving now. Totaled two cars. She would be in a safer environment. She has mobility issues. Has fallen a number of times. She would be around other people her age and she could &%$#@ and vent to them instead of me. Sorry if this is too long of a post.