My grandmother is incredibly stubborn and think she is fully independent. When her mind tells her she has done something there's nothing to change that fact no matter what I say.
When trying to make her take a bath her daughter first started approaching just by saying its time for the bath like always she used to bathe in the afternoon. Failure after failure when we came visit grandmother smelled horribly and her daughter says she hasn't bathed in weeks. She then turned to saying to her that she stinks, that's when we got a lenghty phone call from our grandmother telling us her daughter said she stinks, but she DOES we just never tell her that.
Now her daughter moved away she couldn't take anymore and grandmother is left to us. We tell her to take a bath and she always replies she already has. We started with telling her bath is ready, made sure everything was great, we have great facilities for her to take a good comfortable shower.
If we go all out and debate her she hasn't taken the bath she will just want to leave the house and go to her old home, as if she could. Adding new things to the bathroom like most advice on the internet is a complete waste of money we now think all them are just to sell us things we don't need because what good would getting "X" thing for her shower would do if she won't even get off the sofa to go and see it. We could get all the things in the market and the problem doesn't rest there it's getting her to the bathroom to take the bath. After daily attempts we keep trying as she starts to smell worse and worse our only successful plan was to put a really sticky and grossly bothersome shampoo on her head wherever she is currently sitting and after it starts to slide across her head it would start bothering her and she then goes for the shower. Problem now is that's the only way. Recently this "already have done" thought in her head has spread to food now, so she is starting to starve herself. Luckily we've gotten her OTC meds to make her hungry and have a stock of her favorite food she never says no to. We've gotten no useful advice from multiple "doctors", from her concierge to neurologist and all they seem efficient at is charging the medical plan a hefty lump sum. So family won't do it, doctors won't do it, I look now for advice over the internet to see if somebody would give us the answer to all riddles without seeking a million dollars.