father raised 7 kids alone never said i love you and we all pretty much gave him trouble oldest sib is 62 or 65 i'm 47 the youngest. he is stuck in his day and age and still has the tendency to tell us what to do with our lives and or grandchildren and if we dont listen then he is disgusted and loses respect or something. i'm learning to speak up respectvely and its working. we have a good relationship. dad has a need to take control of everyones plans when visiting from afar which is ok one day or night not the entire visit so over the years my siblings put up w/it and it led to doing things behind his back and not being up front. i say let him know your own plans too and if he has a problem well least you were honest. dad is seeing his child raising mistakes which is never to late. no perfect parent right? i just want m siblings to give honest and understanding a chance before its too late. being the baby well you know. i should just stay out of family business according to oldest sister whos 60ish. when i was young i thought he was mean but no he was just trying what he thought was right or the best. You kinda follow me?