My brother was overdosed by his sorry wife in 2008 and put him into a nursing home as incompetent, & in lock down. His son & I got him out and his son kept him for 6 months and weaned him off Risperdal completely. He does well living in my home for past 2 1/2 yrs. He has major speech delay problems, cannot take care of meds, cook, drive, anxiety attacks sweating and too weak to stand up sometimes. I take care of all his business, money, drs appts and everything. He has 3 adult children who never come to see him or do anything at all for him. I had to take early retirement in 2007 because my mother was bed ridden with strokes. She passed away Dec. 2010. My step father was / is a wonderful loving man and took care of mom so lovingly every day for 3 1/2 years. Now he is 92 and not doing well. Hospitalized for 7 days recently after doing so well. Now he is in a rehab ctr / nursing home hopefully to regain his strength to walk and get around some. I go 25 miles to see him 3 times a week and spend hours with as I had promised my mom I would stand by his side. He is a brilliant and wise man even today. It breaks my to see him going down hill so fast. I have one daughter, she is married with 3 beautiful children. The youngest is almost 12 yrs old and has special needs. I work with my children about 15 to 20 hrs per week. The bottom line is I am sorry for my brother and feel guilty but I just cannot go on living this way. I am so young at heart and mind, I would like to enjoy some retirement life before it is too late in life. I simply have no valuable time in my life to just sit down and enjoy ANYTHING. My once loved condo where I had friends and a normal life is never here anymore. Basically my brother sits in one chair in my living area 9 out of 12 hrs EVERYDAY. This is what I look at all the time when I am working my brains out with everyone's paperwork, dr call, refilling prescriptions and reaching medical on my computer. I did start going to therapy for a couple months and now I can't do that. there is simply no time for myself. I am like a child with everyone else taking all my time. I CANNOT enjoy my own home. I always loved and enjoyed my own personal time and space to relax. My grandchildren miss spending the night with me because life with them is not the same when someone is sitting here at every breath of my life. I am to the point I cannot continue to live this life. How can I get my life back?? I pray for guidance every day of my life for God to show me the way. I am tired and my children are worried to death about me because they know I am miserable. Is anyone one out there that has ever dealt with the opposite sex sibling living in a small condo together. Please someone out there please read this and give me any feedback. PLEASE!!! HELP!