She has dementia and still insists on controling her own finances, housekeeping, yard, etc. Dad is very agreeable to whatever she says but he has CHF and is becoming very weak. They are 83 and 88 and she has early dementia and is becoming very defiant about help. The only thing she'll allow me to help with is Drs and medicines. The yard is overgrown and the house is dirty. She hasn't vacummed in months. Any ideas?