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On one of his last major visits to the hospital concerning issues that are impacted by alcohol, I asked the doctor to try to encourage him to quit. The doctor basically told me to mind my own business, that it was one of the few things he seemed to enjoy. I think most people will understand that from that point on the doctor wasn't held high in my book of esteem.
In retrospect, though, it would have been too emotionally trying on both of us to try to coerce him toward quitting, much less emotionally and physically demanding on his own being to go through the 'hell' of attempting to quit. Given my Dad's age and long term health issues... the doctor, for his own reasons, may have been right.
Perhaps this concept will help your own emotions when worrying about your Mom and her smoking.
You don't have to be paranoid when it comes to the use of Oxygen but you do have to be careful.
She struggled with this for a while but with the thoughts of what could happen and her knowing how I felt about what she was doing or could do to all of us here she has been reasonable and understanding.
My Mother thinks that Cigarettes are all she has left in her life because she hasn't got anything left ( she can pivot to use the commode but is mostly in bed and only gets out when she bathes or has to go to the Doctors). Yes she is very depressed and thinks that if she has to give up her cigg's then she might as well die. ( She has lost a lot in the past five years...her husband of 33yrs, her house and her independence, so I can understand why she feels this way)
So you see you can't take them completely away but hopefully by letting her know how you feel about what she's doing and how you love her she will at least cut back.
My mother had agreed to cut back to 4 ciggs a day so far it has been almost 4 wks. and she is doing really well. and her breathing has already improved some. She hasn't had as many scary attacks of not being able to breathe. It was getting to the point where she couldn't use the commode without getting totally out of breath.
Patience and understanding on both sides will go along way.
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