We've had my 94 yo mother home with us for 5 days from the memory care facility. (It got too expensive.) During the time she's been here I can count the hours I've slept. Unfortunately, I am a light sleeper and suffer from insomnia. I can't sleep in the daytime either. I can GET to sleep at night but, without medication, I can't STAY asleep. I can't TAKE any medication because she gets her "second wind" at bedtime and I need to be able to be up in seconds.
Today we hired a gal (an EMT) to stay with my mom 4 nights a week. Tonight is her first night. I told her she can go to sleep as long as she helps my mom if she needs it. I kept the baby monitor on just in case. I heard mom talking and walked in to find mother naked and urine on the floor. She had 2 clean diapers and 2 pads on just an hour before. The poor c/g must have awoken to her doing this and she was trying to get my mom to the bathroom. So much for sleeping tonight! (1:15 am now).
Mother took Seroquel 12.5mg. and Ativan 1 mg. 45 minutes before bed. We limit fluids after 6 pm. She is taking medicine for a UTI but it should be kicking in by now. Before we left the memory care facility, the nurse told me that she was doing this same behavior. We had explained many times to call the c/g to get her to the bathroom but in stage 6 Alzheimer's, she can't comprehend what to do.
I've thought of a bed alarm but all that will do is alert me and c/g that she's up.
Maybe giving nighttime meds earlier but then she'll be waking up too early in the morning. I thought of more daytime activity but her tolerance is just above bedridden.
Unfortunately, I think we've bit off more than we can chew. I'll be calling Medi-Cal (Medicaid) in the morning.
I don't see ever sleeping again at this point. Ya'll have any suggestions, short of hog-tying her, to keep her in bed? Hubby is great during the day but he sleeps as hard as a bear at night. As you can imagine, I'm at my wits end. Any suggestions will be more than welcome. The antidepressant is keeping me from crying (a good thing right now) but my neck is in knots (also arthritis), my back is aching from all the pulling and lifting and I just wonder why this has to go on. AAAhhhhhhh!