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She has been here for 3 years and I need the space I'm about to have another baby. She receives an ssd check monthly doesn't help me in anything she is a obstacle in my way need serious help

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Do you have a partner/husband in the picture to back you up. It would be different if she was helpful and maybe watched the kids so you could work but she is just a freeloader. What does she spend her money on ?booze and cigarettes?
How old is she and could she work? I am afraid you will have to follow all the above suggestions and stand firm. That is only fair to you and your family after all she is hardly being fair to you.
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I pray that I will never have to live with any of my children. They need their own space to live their lives it's the circle of life if the situation is bad it can be unbearable constantly on your mind day in day out you need relief. Stay firm and let her know you need your home to raise your family and that you love her. God understands that.
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Babies don't take up much space; however, your first responsibility to is to your own family. If Mom needs care, call social services for assistance in finding a proper place for her. If she is just freeloading off of you, then set a date and start the moving process.

Are there other relatives that can help you talk to her and help her with new living arrangements.
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She will soon have 4 kids. The teens need their space and I agree. "Mom, we have to get you into your own apartment, within the next week." Then, bring in some moving boxes.
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Hi, I just went through this situation. My SO and I had to stand firm after 3 years of my mother living with us. It had gotten to the point where I had to contact adult protective services for an investigation. It was the social workers from this agency who explained some legal ramifications and a couple of not so very pleasant choices I could do, including eviction, which I did not want to do. I was honest and firm with her. She didn't like hearing the hard truth of the fact that my home and life were her command central. Sometimes you have to get that stiff upper lip and tell it like it is, no matter how guilty she or others may make you feel; including yourself. We had agreed she would be with us for one year....then the refusal of help came to play...do yourself and her a favor by telling her you did not create her situation. Stay positive but firm. Good luck!
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Newborn babies don't take up much room at all, so I don't think that space is the real issue. Try to rationalize things, which is not easy when pregnancy hormones are altering your emotions and judgment. What is the real conflict?
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Are you taking care of her in any way? Does she need caregiving help?

What is her reply when you tell her she needs to leave?

More details, please.
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