Our 90 year old mother with moderate demential refuses to eat in the dining room at her assisted living facility. She insists staff bring meals to her apartment at a cost of an extra 6$ per delivery. Staff have tried to encourage her but the ususal reply is she's "sick" or "hurting". She is more than happy to go if we visit and always seems to enjoy the company when in the dining room.We just can't get her to go. We brought her a wheelchair since her main excuse was she can't walk that far, but of course the escort has come and she refuses. She wears a nightgown and bathrobe all day and is now asking staff to bring her mail since she has been told she cannot walk around the facility in a bathrobe. She will not come out of her apartment and feels the visits from staff is all she needs in terms of socializing. I know they are frustrated with her too since she tries to keep them in her apartment as long as possible. One other thing, she doesn't want to bathe and uses the excuse that only one of the assistants knows how to do it right. What to do?