My mom just entered an assisted living facility almost 3 weeks ago after a fall/hospital stay and then short term rehab. This was not her first fall and all family members agree she cannot be living alone. She is 84 years old and has been very independent her whole life (never a stay at home mom - always working). I received a phone call from the facility that she is not complying with the assistance for toileting, showering, dressing and personal hygiene. She thinks she can still do these things but she is very incontinent, has accidents and since she has no sense of smell - thinks everything is ok. We have all put up with the odor of urine over the last year or so, but that is not acceptable at the assisted living facility.
If she does not agree to let them help her, I'll be forced to send her to a nursing home and she really doesn't belong in that type of care situation.
I've tried talking to her and she continually says "it's so embarrassing, I can do it on my own", but she really can't. How can I convince her to let them help her?
Any thoughts or suggestions would be so very helpful. Thank you.