My mom is living at home with my brother,she is an amputee,she has a pacemaker and she is on oxygen. she no longer gets out of bed and i have had to leave work to help my brother change her bed and clean her up. He is 60 years old he is diabetic, not healthy either. I have suggested nursing home care several times and he said he is not ready? I was told he can refuse to take her home when she is in the hospital, if he does not want to can i since i am secondary on power of attorney.