How do I get mom into assisted living without physically forcing her?

I think you also need to speak to someone about the financial part - reverse mortgage and selling the house. If you do reverse mortgage, I don't think you can sell the house. If you default on the reverse mortgage....I think maybe it's best to see an elder law attorney first. The elder lawyer can also help you in the event the money runs out and you have to do the estimated 5 year look back if you tend to try for medicaid to continue to pay for her stay.

This is tough to say the least. If your mother was willing to move to assisted living you would not have to use the POA unless she is mentally incapacitated. We had to wait things out with our mother until she was incapacitated to use the DPOA, It was a very hard year of running to my mom's house daily and then cooking meals for her, then it got to where I was going 2-3 times a day. Once mom was diagnosed incapacitated, we found a nice place for her. I took her out shopping while other family members moved over her furniture. I told her this was just for 4-6 weeks. We had to it that way because if it was left up to her, she would not go. I have to work. I visit 2-3 times a week, take her to all appts. and we go out for lunch or breakfast. My sis does all the financial and I take care of the medical since I live in the same city as mom. We took mom out shopping for new clothes recently and had lunch afterwards. We haven't sold her house yet but we will and all that money goes toward her care. Good luck to you!!

Can you take her for a drive and visit the Nice facility? They might let you come for a meal, if you want her to move in. Let her look around. Tell the administration what you hope will happen and ask them to use their persuasive powers. She might decide it looks pretty good.

Does she know your sister is leaving? Ask her what she will do then. Remind her how hard the place is to care for, and how icy the roads get in winter. Do you have POA? You will need that to get the RM and sell her land and house.

Good luck! I don't envy you.