My 69yo mom has been diagnosed with dementia for 5yrs now. She is a very intellegent woman & so is very good at hiding her problem from people not as close to her as family and is pretty high functioning for the level I know she is at. She lives alone, feeds herself (always takeout, does not cook), feeds & walks her pets and gets herself to about 5 places - Church, 2 food places, the pet store, my grandmother's house & choir practice. Although she will go to church & choir practice on the wrong days a lot. Sounds fine & dandy, but she has had many problems: wrecks, lost much money for scams, lost her car at football games & rode home with stranger, always losing her wallet. She can't do anything other than what I have mentioned she does. I manage her money, taxes, home & car repairs, doc appts, major holidays, etc. I am only 27, newly married & newly pregnant & don't have the time or abilities to care for her on my own. She does not like talking about her disease (I wouldn't either) & I have picked up the pieces behind her behind her back mostly. I never tell her about all the things I do for her behind her back bc I don't want to upset her about her disease more. But her doc & my fam do not want her driving anymore (I agree) & want her in an assisted living home. I want these things too bc it would be safer, cleaner (she never does laundry or cleans) & she would have socialization. She was a single mom & i am her only child, so she doesn't get any socialization except for church, choir & a few family members. She has been telling me since I was a kid to never put her in a nursing home so it breaks my heart. So much so that I told my husband and uncle they will have to be the ones to tell her bc I just cannot do it. And I KNOW she will refused, probably try calling the cops or walking out of the house or something. I cry just thinking about it. I wish so badly I could just snap my fingers & she would be in the new place & adjusted & not have to go through the process. Any help??