Hello Decatur Read your comment on VA benefits and thought id take ur advice you gave to a different member.and write you .
Ill try to make this simple ,
My mother was divorced from her husband but didn't know it for first two years !!! she filed her taxes as separated during that time.
Her military id had expired so she went to have it up dated. un be-known to her, she was DIVORCED for the last two years!!! they had military police there to walk her off the base!!! she felt so embarrassed and humiliated to say the least!! they treated her like a criminal!!
They called her x husband who is retied military ! to get a copy of the divorced papers thankfully she had present of mind to ask for a copy and sure enough she was divorced!!!
What happened was, her x husband and his lawyer conspired together to not let her know she was divorced so that she would not be able to qualify for x spouse benefits ( there is a window (one years after ur divorced to let VA know ur divorced from ur x spouse to receive the benefit (SPB) in the event he dies )
MEAN WHILE he by court order, still paid/pays into the SBP and writes /wrote her out a check every month !! do to her being married to him active duty for 5 years!! but, all that means nothing to VA because she didn't file one year window after she was divorced so therefore she isn't able to receive SBP !! after he passes on !!!
Her x husband and his lawyer conspired together by not letting her know she was divorced, she had moved clear across country soon after she was divorced but her ex still knew where she lived cause he had to send her a check every month !!
My question is how can we get her SBP she is entitled to? does she have any legal ground? her ex does pay into it and still does ...( we checked and the SBP is still being paid ) it is written on divorce papers that she is entitled ! she has been divorced from him since 2005.
Sorry it was such along drawn out comment but nothing ever is with VA !!!
By the way I'm Air force brat and x military navel wife my self!
Thanks in advance