My step-mother has put my father in a private pay facility to care for him because he has Alzheimer's and she is in another separate (the most expensive around) independent living facility. It's been that way for a few years now. The facility my Dad is in, is considering sending him to a county facility as he has become harder to care for, behavioral issues because he wants to go home. Rather than send him to a not so great facility where they will likely just keep him sedated, they have hired companions to stay with him 12 hours a day 7 days a week. All they do is follow him around. My step mother only sees him briefly once or twice a year. They are hemorrhaging money and he will be in the not so great facility when it runs out, anyway! Sedated because he's not getting the attention he really needs, at home with family around him. Unfortunately they live in NY and I am in KY. Fortunately, my husband and I are ready, willing and able to take my dad home to our newly built 5 bedroom home, as I am my fathers secondary POA. My stepmother won't relenquish the primary POA and let me take him home, but never shows up for him and is making lousy financial decisions as well as lousy decisions for what would make my dad happiest and healthiest given his disabled condition. Can I get my dad somehow?